By Jane Balvanz, MSE, RPT
Professional School Counselor

In a world obsessed by size, shape, and attractiveness, girls receive messages that they must look and be a certain way in order to be valued. Little girls are complimented for looking pretty, while older girls are favored for looking “hot” or sexy. This pressure can lead to anorexia, bulimia, and increased relational aggression among girls. Here is a checklist of healthy alternative compliments for girls in your life. See how many you can use!

I’m proud of how __________________ you are!

1. ____ Accepting
2. ____ Active
3. ____ Brave
4. ____ Caring
5. ____ Compassionate
6. ____ Courageous
7. ____ Daring
8. ____ Exciting
9. ____ Forgiving
10. ____ Giving
11. ____ Grateful
12. ____ Humble
13. ____ Inspiring
14. ____ Industrious
15. ____ Joyful
16. ____ Kind
17. ____ Loving
18. ____ Motivated
19. ____ Natural
20. ____ Organized
21. ____ Patient
22. ____ Powerful
23. ____ Qualified
24. ____ Respectful
25. ____ Responsible
26. ____ Soulful
27. ____ Supportive
28. ____ Thoughtful

I admire your ________________ .

29. ____ Activism
30. ____ Athleticism
31. ____ Creativity
32. ____ Curiosity
33. ____ Determination
34. ____ Energy
35. ____ Fortitude
36. ____ Gracefulness
37. ____ Honesty
38. ____ Imagination
39. ____ Perseverance
40. ____ Self-discipline
41. ____ Self-respect
42. ____ Spirit

You’re gifted with the ability to ________________________ .

43. ____ act
44. ____ bat
45. ____ cook
46. ____ dance
47. ____ delegate
48. ____ design
49. ____ draw
50. ____ dream
51. ____ initiate
52. ____ jump
53. ____ kick
54. ____ learn
55. ____ leap
56. ____ laugh
57. ____ move
58. ____ negotiate
59. ____ opine
60. ____ persuade
61. ____ play
62. ____ pretend
63. ____ question
64. ____ run
65. ____ sing
66. ____ spell
67. ____ throw
68. ____ understand
69. ____ win
70. ____ wonder

You look _________________ .

71. ____ Adventurous
72. ____ Athletic
73. ____ Bold
74. ____ Calm
75. ____ Confident
76. ____ Daring
77. ____ Exciting
78. ____ Gregarious
79. ____ Happy
80. ____ Healthy
81. ____ Important
82. ____ Magical
83. ____ Proud
84. ____ Powerful
85. ____ Qualified
86. ____ Ready
87. ____ Smart
88. ____ Successful
89. ____ Unique
90. ____ Vivacious

Top 9

91. ____ The world’s a better place with you in it.
92. ____ You’re a team player.
93. ____ I’m happy you’re a girl.
94. ____ You make me smile!
95. ____ I’m glad you were born.
96. ____ I’m lucky to know you.
97. ____ I’m proud of you.
98. ____ I like you.
99. ____ I love you.

Number 1

100. ____ I like you just the way you are.

© 2012 A Way Through, LLC

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